Experiencing a death in the family is never an easy thing. Particularly when you have children involved. It can be incredibly emotional and difficult to have to break the news, which is often the most difficult part.
After the initial shock, you are then required to have to move forward and process your feelings. Sometimes this can be difficult in a family setting since not everyone has the same grief process. Some of you may take a longer time to move on while some of you will accept things quite easily.
In order to make it through the tragedy of a death as a family, you will all have to work together as a team. Here are some of the best tips for how to make it through a death in the family, and move forward together in a loving and supportive way.
Even though your first Instinct immediately following a death may be to retreat inside your feelings and grieve, sometimes this is not always an option.
Often people find themselves the person in charge of taking care of details such as managing the estate, organizing funerals, or even helping take care of children left behind after a death.
It’s important to get these details out of the way as soon as possible. This can be difficult when you’re feeling emotional, however, it is important to stay clear-headed and get the task at hand finished. Get all of the support you need in order to be able to stay focused. Once the details are out of the way then you can move on to being able to grieve properly.
Even though we might like to believe that we can handle our problems alone, sometimes it is crucial to receive the help of a professional.
Professional therapy can help us work through our feelings and identify exactly what is happening. When you are family this can be particularly helpful as therapy can help you keep the lines of conversation open and work through the tragedy together as a group.
Keep The Conversation Going
One of the biggest mistakes that you can make when processing a death, is to stop talking about the person that you have lost. Even though it may be painful to talk about them, it is healthy to deal with these feelings, and accept their loss rather than pushing it away.
You will find that over time the pain will lessen, and continuing to talk about this person will bring back feelings of happiness and good memories rather than sadness.
Continuing to talk about someone keeps their memory alive rather than letting it fade into the past.