At some point or another, all families have to go through the experience of someone passing away. Sometimes it’s an older relative and the death was anticipated either because of age or health complications leading up to them passing on. While other times it can be a more jolting and unexpected death in the family which sends everyone into shock.
As an adult, many people have already experienced the death of friends and family, so the process is a bit different. However, when you are a child the concept of death can be a lot to take in. Therefore, knowing how to provide your children with the best possible tools to get through the grieving will do them an entire lifetime of good.
Here are some of the best ways to get through a death in the family and help everyone heal as quickly as possible.
Do Something That Brings You Together As a Family
Sometimes one of the best things to do when you are going through a grieving process is distracting your mind from the tragedy. After the initial shock, it’s important to try to get back to normalcy as much as you can, despite how challenging it may be.
One of the best things that you can do to make it through a tragedy such as a loss of a family member is to bring your family together by doing something enjoyable together. This can be anything from taking a trip together to starting an activity together as a team.
Talk About It
Talking about your feelings is something that is crucial. If you don’t release your emotions then they eventually start to bottle up and eventually will explode. Therefore, it’s important for everyone in your family to sit down and get it out on the table. If you don’t discuss your feelings as a group then you risk eventually someone eventually having a breakdown.
It’s especially important to show your younger ones that it’s good to talk about feelings and it’s okay to feel sad or angry. By you showing them that it’s alright, you will be creating a foundation for them to be emotionally intelligent adults later in life.
Have a Memorial Service
One of the most healing things you can do is to have a memorial service which fondly remembers the life of this lost family member. By having a service everyone is able to have closure.
This ceremony has been practiced by societies gong far back in history and although it can vary from culture to culture, the idea of coming together to honor a life is the same. It creates a bond and fond memories of the person that you loved and lost.